Basics of Humanity

Since the time i have come to mumbai, i have met many new people, met few old friends, interviewed a lot of patients....from all the conversations i have had with all sorts of people met till date, i believe more in carl roger's theory...he says that everyone has the ability achieve success and everyone attempts to reach self actualization....however i feel that in today's competitive world we have forgotten this....apart from the theory part i think we have lost respect for other human being...i believe that everyone is trying to do the best in the given life circumstances of that particular individual..everyone is achieving some or the other thing everyday....but somehow many of us seem to show pride in things that are not really in their control like cast, financial status and intelligence....there are also some people who believe that what they have achieved in life is something so great and develop superiority complex...they stop seeing achievements of other people...being happy about your job, position, education and many other things is one thing but having that extra tinge of see i am so different seems to kill basic respect for other human being....i strongly believe that every human being achieves a great a success in their respective life in given circumstances...some who can't are called the failed ones which kills their self esteem all the more....let's respect them for at least trying hard...and there will be a set of people who will not try but crib and it is okay to not respect but that does not make them a failure...cause again it is beyond their control to see their ability...and in our world some of them are called mad people, psychotics, neurotics or just a waste....but i believe such people may need help to realize and a little to push to see their ability to achieve greater success which again can be materialistic or realization or emotional growth....but basic respect and believe that everyone is doing some or the other thing towards their idea of success is necessary and which can not fit in any terms like job, money, fame or anything else..it is more internal...to each it's own..no matter what your position, job, money, education should not change relations and your view towards others....i believe.

Welcome to Adulthood....

As you grow up you learn to adjust and accept certain realities of life. And you also have to learn to be okay with certain discomforts you face. When you want something to happen and it does not happen, you have to learn to be okay with it. You cannot keep crying about why, and why me, or why can’t I get this now or I should have got something else. We learn to understand that some situations we face may not be by choice but this is what life is all about. And the moment you realize this you may get into this whole new phase of depression, to which many people refer as adulthood. There is funny yet serious thing about being an adult. All your life you think that you can do whatever you want to do, and then your parents won’t force their choices on you but then you realize that when the time comes to make your own decisions you come across this huge thing called responsibility. And then when you want to do something you really like, you come across factors like money, time, etc etc. As you grow up it becomes so easy and difficult to do just what you want to do. This is about being adult. Adulthood is fun, being irresponsible and responsible at the same time, covering up your mistakes, trying to make yourself big.
It is obvious that everyone has to make choices as they grow up and it is a part of everyone’s life. However, when one has to make decisions that are purely based on the situation and not because of your own will, you may not be very happy in such kind of decisions.