I

As we grow up 'I' starts becoming....ummmm...I can't really find words to describe this 'I'.
As kids I is what parents want us to be and we are very happy with choices they make for us and friends or people they choose for us. World is peaceful. .!!  This scenario is changing today..but I shall write another blog about that...coming back to 'I'

During our school days we are more 'I' is more about friends, their ideas, teachers to some extent and parents suddenly take a backseat...Something important about this phase is if the home environment is happy, peaceful then this 'I' will all about what friends etc..but if home atmosphere is unhealthy, rough then this 'I'is majorly affected by the home atmosphere. ..but I shall write another blog about that...

Once we pass this phase of school, college we come to a stage where 'I' has become considerably stable or rigid in some cases...and this is where we start with fights, issues and hurt and blame games... now in this phase something as simple as 'I don't like a particular thing or I am like this or that is considered as an offensive statement by the other person...this 'I ' creates a lot of problems and adjustment issues between all adults..looking at these kids play in school I keep wondering kya kare bhai...how to go back to more flexible 'I'...should there be a flexible 'I'....some food for my thought during coffee break...

Basics of Humanity

Since the time i have come to mumbai, i have met many new people, met few old friends, interviewed a lot of patients....from all the conversations i have had with all sorts of people met till date, i believe more in carl roger's theory...he says that everyone has the ability achieve success and everyone attempts to reach self actualization....however i feel that in today's competitive world we have forgotten this....apart from the theory part i think we have lost respect for other human being...i believe that everyone is trying to do the best in the given life circumstances of that particular individual..everyone is achieving some or the other thing everyday....but somehow many of us seem to show pride in things that are not really in their control like cast, financial status and intelligence....there are also some people who believe that what they have achieved in life is something so great and develop superiority complex...they stop seeing achievements of other people...being happy about your job, position, education and many other things is one thing but having that extra tinge of see i am so different seems to kill basic respect for other human being....i strongly believe that every human being achieves a great a success in their respective life in given circumstances...some who can't are called the failed ones which kills their self esteem all the more....let's respect them for at least trying hard...and there will be a set of people who will not try but crib and it is okay to not respect but that does not make them a failure...cause again it is beyond their control to see their ability...and in our world some of them are called mad people, psychotics, neurotics or just a waste....but i believe such people may need help to realize and a little to push to see their ability to achieve greater success which again can be materialistic or realization or emotional growth....but basic respect and believe that everyone is doing some or the other thing towards their idea of success is necessary and which can not fit in any terms like job, money, fame or anything else..it is more internal...to each it's own..no matter what your position, job, money, education should not change relations and your view towards others....i believe.

Welcome to Adulthood....

As you grow up you learn to adjust and accept certain realities of life. And you also have to learn to be okay with certain discomforts you face. When you want something to happen and it does not happen, you have to learn to be okay with it. You cannot keep crying about why, and why me, or why can’t I get this now or I should have got something else. We learn to understand that some situations we face may not be by choice but this is what life is all about. And the moment you realize this you may get into this whole new phase of depression, to which many people refer as adulthood. There is funny yet serious thing about being an adult. All your life you think that you can do whatever you want to do, and then your parents won’t force their choices on you but then you realize that when the time comes to make your own decisions you come across this huge thing called responsibility. And then when you want to do something you really like, you come across factors like money, time, etc etc. As you grow up it becomes so easy and difficult to do just what you want to do. This is about being adult. Adulthood is fun, being irresponsible and responsible at the same time, covering up your mistakes, trying to make yourself big.
It is obvious that everyone has to make choices as they grow up and it is a part of everyone’s life. However, when one has to make decisions that are purely based on the situation and not because of your own will, you may not be very happy in such kind of decisions.

Thinking+ Feeling+ Behaving= Being= Psychology

Today was my first ever session with a teenager...maintaining the confidentiality i just want to put down my feelings...i was all confused to conduct this session...i have done workshops with teenagers but individual sessions with someone..umm ya done it before but with someone in college..it was my first ever session with someone more younger than that..i was telling hundred things to myself..before that teenager came in the room i was trying to figure out the 'cool' ways to talk to him, one thought led to another, and i was already sitting in school...there were so many things that came to my mind...there were so many things on my mind at that time and no one to talk to..see when you are not a very good student( let me define good student: marks above 75%{ when i was in school, now it is 95% }, obedient, does not ask why and many other questions, does homework on time, is not naughty, and all sorts of things which i was not, )your other concerns or issues are as good as negligible..well sometimes a lot of intelligence can also be a reason to ignore them but ya not in my case...i mean all the emotional issues, questions about why things are like they are, why must, why not do something, why not be naughty, why not watch few channels or TV shows and many more...as a teenager there are so many things that you are going through: study pressure,peer pressure, understanding emotions, understand ways to deal with them, make new friends, sometimes break old relations, understanding your body, physical changes in your body..oh my god...as all these issues came to my mind i could just see myself as a teenager who is totally confused, trying to understand things at my level, may be wrongly..and that's when i felt, it would have been so nice if i had a counselor to whom i could go and talk without feeling ashamed of or scared of...i know that eventually i got the answers to my questions in all possible ways, some through right ways and some through as people call it bad experiences or wrong ways...as i was in these thoughts there was a knock on the door...it was that teenager...and as we started talking i was totally into his world...after the session i was wondering what was it that made it so easy for me to connect and build good rapport...may be it was because i empathized with myself or may be something else...i don't know..but yay...am happy..

Thinking+ Feeling+ Behaving= Being= Psychology

I remember my excitement when i took up psychology as my special subject. It was COOL and DIFFERENT. It was not very well accepted by my parents and grand-parents but ya, i decided to go ahead with it. It was something very close to my interest which was talking to people, helping them sort out their problems. But today when I am a Clinical Psychologist, I can see that it is totally different. Anyways going back to my college days, I really wonder what drives people to do what they really what they want to do? Or how one decides their goal for rest of their life? Anyways with all the confusion, but still with the pretension of being firm and sure.. and then started this whole journey to The World Of Psychology- The Science of Human Mind...
With all the struggle, new experiences and experiments three years of BA were over. .

In these three years with all sorts of people around, with all sorts of experiences and with a more definite reason i decided to move to Mumbai for doing my Post Graduation. At that time i realized that if you have decided something for yourself and you know that it is going to work out for you and give you, okay not fully but at least show the way to what you want, you don't feel the need to convince people...and so didn't I. I just told my parents that I am going to Mumbai..and at that point in time their support or rejection did not matter to me..because i had decided to be at the place i wanted to be.
I realized that the change had already begun in me.
I still don't know if that was because of Psychology r the age i was in, may be both..but ya change happened..i did not know what was there for me in mumbai..but ya today when i look back i sure love it, and become more and more happy about the decision i made...Decision to take up Psychology, Decision to give myself a chance and decision of taking risks...

spread the word

we recently had a lecture on awareness of mental health in india...after the lecture we all asked only one question...but unfortunately our teacher did not have answer for that...the question was...hi responsibility of making people aware konachi,amchi as a clinical psychologists,social workers chi ki doctor chi ki pratekachi...
kharatar MENTAL HEALTH hi kiti mahatwachi asali pahije,aplya pratekachya ayushyat roj itki dhwapal asate, itke problems asatat ani kadhitari kuthetari apan apure padato hya sagalyaya,tewa wel kadhun kharach wichar karayala hawa swatahcha,jewadha wichar apan physical illness cha karto tewadhach aplya manachahi karayala hawa,we all have time for everything else but for ourselves...its people like us who can increase the importance of mental health by givin it little bit of attention,it does not take much time...while you are online just go to google and read up about it....get knwoledge and spread it..just tell it to people you know...especially apalya gharat kaaam karnarya bayakana,gardener la, gadi pusanarya manasala.....because we have access to net and all other things but those people are completely unaware of it..and i guess its our soical responsibility to make them aware...i dont want to say ki pratek gharat ek mentally ill manus asatoch pan apan to honyapasun wachawu shakato....
so i request you all ki just read up about simple mental illnesses like depression, schizophrenia,dementia,autism,learning disorders....and please make aware the illiterate people around you....all you have to do is google it..go to www.google.com

Mumbai = Local Trains

Pune tasa kay nai asa kay ek shanta ani santh chalnare shahar. Amchya Punyala manasanchya soyinusar ghadyalache kaate pudhe saraktat,ashach ya punyatun me mumbaila ale.Mumbai madhe sagalach wegala asata,ithe ghadalyache kate manasana nachawatat…8.13 ,5.34 , 16.23 asha local chya wela ani tyamage dhawanari ani ghusanari manase mhanje Mumbai, asa watayach mala jewa mi mumbai kade baghyache ek punekar mhanun….
Pan ata maza chashma badalala ahe,ata me zaliy mumbaikar ani gosti baghyala shikaliy tyanchya chashmyatun..
Trains are the important part of life in Mumbai,when I first came to Mumbai I was really scared,ekachweli itke lok baghaychi wel punyat warshatun ekda phakt ganapatilach yayachi…pan ata he rojcha asanar hota,
Kiti majja wataychi mala jewha mi suttit mumbaila yayche ani train madhalya bayakana boltana aaikayche- are kal main na middleme thee,bhag bhag ke pakdya yaar kal maine- khup hasu yayach mala ani watayach ki pudhachi local 4 minutes madhe yate tari ka hi loka paltat…pan mumbaila alywar kalla ki bhagate bhagate train pakadyachi maja kai wegalich asate….
Punyat astana wataych ki Mumbai mhanje gardi,gham,palapal ani chukaleli local….attahi gosti pahr kai badalalya nahityet tich gardi,palapal,gham phakt local matra chukat nai….